tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-35841175314925318942024-02-18T19:54:40.618-08:00Blogs By Ms G!Everyone has ISSUES! So let's talk about them!Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-90485908594689654482010-09-12T00:14:00.000-07:002010-09-12T00:30:14.283-07:00Ain't No Love There!I received this in my inbox a few days ago. I am posting it with the permission of the reader.<br />
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READER'S COMMENT:<br />
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Ms Glenda, I am one of those people who read your blogs all the time, but never comment. I just ordered your book and can't wait to get it because I swear I need it right now. I am so embarrassed for what I'm about to tell you. Right now, I feel cheap, used and my self esteem is so low.<br />
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I've been dating a man that I work with for the past 3 months. I consider our relationship to be okay. We see each other maybe once or twice a week. He tells me that he is in love with me, but sometimes I'm not sure. Last night he called me at 11:30 and asked me to come over. I was already in bed, so I asked him why he didn’t come over to my house. He said because he's already in bed and didn't want to get up then he said, "Oh by the way, can you stop by Wendy's and get me a double cheese meal cause I'm kinda hungry." Needless to say, the closest Wendy's is 10 minutes out of the way and it's pouring down raining, but because I do love him, I do it. When I finally get to his place he answers the door and takes the food out of my hand. I follow him as he returns to the bed to eat and I sit watching him from the chair. When he's done he tells me to take my clothes off, which I do. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2010/09/aint-no-love-there.html">Read More...</a><br />
<a name='more'></a>When I get in bed he starts pushing my head towards his penis indicating he wants me to give him oral satisfaction and I'm cool with it, but his di@k stinks. This fool ain't even had the common courtesy to wash his @ss! I can't go anywhere because he's holding my head. So I lick around it a few times (while holding my breath) and within a few minutes he cums. Now I'm really upset because he made me get undressed and I at least expected to get some penetration, but he gets out of bed and starts to gather up my clothes and hands them to me telling me that he's gotta get some sleep because he has to be at work early (like I didn't know this, again, we work together and I have to be at work at 10 am too!)<br />
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So I take my tired @ss home to take a shower because I feel dirty and used. I found myself sitting in the shower crying because I want a man so bad, I'm willing to give up all self-respect and let him use me.<br />
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Today at work he totally ignored me and acted like I didn't exist. But that's not all; I hear this chick that works with us bragging to her friends about how she went over to his house last night to punish him for messing around on her. She said she got him all horny, let him put it in then she left him with a hard di@k and told him to go jack off. What's worse is knowing he called me when he couldn't get it from her. I was so sick; I couldn't stay at work and took the rest of the day off. The sad part is that I'm waiting for my phone to ring hoping he'll be concerned enough to call and see what's wrong to cause me to leave work early. Can you give me any insight at all? Please help me!<br />
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Wow! The first thing I did when I read your message was to go to your profile; I wanted to know something about you. You are only 24-years-old and you fell for the okie-doke and you got played, but IT'S OKAY! When I was your age, I got played a few times too, but baby, it's not the end of the world. So please don't beat yourself up over this. <br />
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Chances are before it's all said and done, you will be played again. There is nothing wrong with getting played as long as you learn something from it. This $hit that you're experiencing now, is what's going to make you stronger and wiser in the long run. However, there <em>is</em> something wrong if you allow <em>"him"</em> to play you again. This was definitely a learning experience for you. <br />
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All women at some point have felt less than our worth in a relationship. When we think we're in love we do dumb $hit, we think our actions will <em>convince </em>a man to love us the way that we <em>think</em> we love him. First of all, don't get out of your bed at any hour to go and see a man that you're just casually dating. (And you fed him too?! A definite no-no) <br />
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If he wants you that bad make him come to you. Also, if a man can spend his social hours hanging with his buddies, at the club and doing whatever (and whomever) else, then don't call me after 10:00 wanting to get together because it's not going to happen.<br />
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You can't camouflage a booty call by calling it love. Don't be a man's booty call unless you're okay with it and can accept it for what it is, if not, when you see his number show up on your caller ID after 10:00 and you know you're weak and <em>know </em>he's going to <em>talk</em> his way in, don't answer the phone.<br />
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I know it looks real bad right now, and it is indeed a touchy situation because you're in love with someone that you work with and obviously, he's sleeping with other women where you both work, but please recognize that on his part, <em>"there ain't no love there!"</em> <br />
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So when you get to work tomorrow, ignore his @$$. Don't speak, or make eye contact; act like<em> he</em> doesn't exist and don't forget to keep a smile on your face. Make him think you have a secret of your own. <br />
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Your order has been processed and your copy of<em> I Need Therapy</em> is on the way! I hope it helps! <br />
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Blog originally posted on MySpace @ <a href="http://www.myspace.com/glendawallace">www.myspace.com/glendawallace</a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-14109503095189672092010-09-11T23:25:00.000-07:002010-09-11T23:31:21.696-07:00When Should Someone Disclose that they have Served Time in Prison?Recently I had a conversation with a man who confessed that he was having problems establishing relationships with women because when he tells them that he has served 20 years in prison, they immediately want nothing else to do with him. Not even conversation!<br />
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So he asked me if he should wait until the relationship becomes more serious before disclosing this piece of information. <br />
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Now, I definitely disagree with his way of thinking. First of all, I've been in this situation on several occasions. No, I've never dated a convicted felon, but I've known men who have misrepresent themselves at the beginning of the relationship, then later, as the relationship or marriage progressed the truth came out. Many women can relate to the disappointment of discovering that her partner has intentionally withheld important information from her. <br />
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I'm not being judgmental when I speak about convicted felons; people make bad decisions every day. It is understood by most, that after serving time, you are considered to have "paid your debt to society", but there <em>is </em>something wrong if you're not being upfront and totally honest with someone you are pursuing a relationship with. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2010/09/when-should-someone-disclose-that-they.html">Read More...</a><br />
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Intentionally withholding information such as this from someone you are trying to develop a relationship with <em>is</em> deceptive. Yet it is so hard for some men to understand that they don't gain anything by it, and when the truth is finally revealed he's going to have one pissed off woman on his hands. <br />
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In <em>this</em> man’s case it is detrimental that he discloses his circumstance early on, being that he is now a registered <em>sex offender</em>. What was his crime? Assault with intent to rape! <br />
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Now ladies when would you want a man to disclose this information to you? <br />
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Guys, we want to hear from you too, what do you think? It could just as easily happen to you too!<br />
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**Repost** Blog originally posted on MySpace<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-89856509508600437102010-04-05T17:02:00.000-07:002010-04-05T17:14:06.137-07:00Let's Talk About Sex!Okay ladies, we have established how men feel about sex. Sex is one of a man’s basic needs. Sometimes, their minds are constantly preoccupied with thoughts about sex throughout a day. It doesn’t matter what his day consists of, sex is never far from his mind. He can have a big project due at work, yet he will still find time to think of sex. <br />
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I have never met a man who has refused or had no interest in sex, but on the flip side of that, it is important to recognize that sex alone will not get him to put that ring on your finger. I don't care how good it is. <br />
One important thing to remember when it comes to sex is that you are in control. A man can only connect with you sexually if you allow him to. Women will always have that power over a man. Unfortunately, some women abuse that power. Some women use sex as a bargaining tool. It is a big taboo that men feel that women give it up initially to get him, but as the relationship progresses, men claim that women tend to withhold sex or ration sexual favors in order to get what she wants. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2010/04/lets-talk-about-sex.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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Ladies, we need intimacy, men need sex! Withholding sex from your man is like giving him a license to cheat. Most men have admitted to me that they cheat because of a lack of passion in their relationship. Lackluster sex is simply not enough. A man wants passion, he wants to feel wanted. I’m not talking about just going to bed and letting him have his way with you. No man wants a woman who just lies there. This behavior will make him feel that you don’t desire him.<br />
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Never make your man feel that you do not desire sex with him and never under any circumstance, say to a man “Hurry up and get it over with!” I don’t care how tired you are, or how early you may have to get up the next morning. No matter how you say these words to a man they are going to hurt. All he hears is that you don’t desire him and for you, making love to him is not pleasurable. He may even feel that you don’t find him physically appealing anymore. In any case, these are words that should never be spoken to a man you love. <br />
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It is understandable that sometimes you’re tired. Life itself is exhausting. You have worked all day, now you have to go home and take care of the kids. By the time dinner is prepared, homework is done, and all the kids are finally in bed, now he wants some of your time and you feel like you have absolutely nothing left to give. I do understand when women tell me this. <br />
One of my readers, who is now a very good friend, contacted me via MySpace wanting to know how was it possible to balance an active sex life while working full time and taking care of five kids. Well, I don’t have any children, but I do work two jobs and still have to find time to run my business, but you know what, I have a wonderful man and although I have a full plate it is not fair to him for me to force him to take a backseat to everything else in my life when he is so good to me. So I’ll share <em>my</em> secret with you.<br />
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When I’m really tired and know my man wants intimacy, I never neglect him. I will throw on my sexiest lingerie, strap on some killer stilettos and enter the bedroom ready for action. I may whisper in his ear, “Baby I’m tired but I want you so bad. I really need to feel you inside me. Let’s have a quickie tonight.”<br />
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This always works, and talking dirty to your man further enhances his stimulation and makes him even more eager. You are encouraging him not to hold back. By telling him you want a quickie, it releases him from the obligation of trying to hold out until you get yours. As a result everyone is satisfied, you can get some sleep and so will he...with a smile on his face!<br />
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Excerpts taken from <em>How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days or Less! </em>Copyright (c) 2009 by Pink Kiss Publishing Company and Glenda A. Wallace. To order your copy please visit <a href="http://www.pinkkisspublishing.com/Order-Page.html">Pink Kiss Publishing Online Bookstore</a> also available from your favorite book retailer.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-25458428142777959392010-04-05T16:16:00.000-07:002010-04-05T16:28:07.513-07:00Reasons Why Your "First" Date Should Never Take Place at Your Home or His!* Don't let your first date with a man take place at your home or his!<br />
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Do not allow yourself to be enticed with the invitation of a home cooked dinner prepared by him. Yeah, I know it sounds inviting, but if he cannot take you out then pass on seeing him altogether.<br />
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Men tend to think of the first date as being expensive; he already knows that you expect him to impress you so he knows he will have to spend some money. However, since he doesn’t know if you are worth it he may opt for an at home movie night and takeout pizza, which will give him an opportunity to feel you out without making a <em>dent</em> in his wallet.<br />
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Chances are if you allow him into your home before he ever takes you out, you run the risk of falling into a sexual relationship sooner than you intended. This situation is a no-no for many reasons. You are already sexually attracted to each other and under the right circumstances it is bound to get physical. It might start out simple; kissing, touching, a caress here and there and then one thing leads to another then before you know it … sex happens! Ladies! Do not put yourself in a situation that you may not be ready for.<br />
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Ok, now let’s just say that it happened. You got caught up in the moment and ended up sleeping with him sooner than you planned. It’s okay, don’t freak out. Whatever you do, do not turn into an after-sex stalker. An after-sex stalker tries to overcompensate for allowing sex too soon by constantly ringing his phone off the hook, texting every few minutes, wanting to know when the two of you will be getting together again. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2010/04/reasons-why-your-first-date-should.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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Ladies, the best thing you can do in this situation is to back the hell off! Give him some time to absorb what has happened. At this point the only thing you can really do is to let him make up his mind if he wants to pursue a relationship with you. Women immediately equate sex with love. After sex you immediately expect a man to want a relationship. Keep in mind, men do not think this way.<br />
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So let’s say that the damage has been done. Now let’s address some ways that we can fix this situation. If the man of your interest calls you within a couple of days, it’s all good. You can still turn this negative experience into a positive one, but for the sake of argument let’s just say he calls but instead of asking you out, he wants to get together again for sex. This is your opportunity to tell him that although you enjoyed sex with him you are not looking for a casual sex partner and it seems that the “relationship” is starting to be just about sex and you want more than that from him. You just placed the ball in his court. He knows that he cannot have a strictly sexual relationship with you so now he has to make a decision.<br />
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Don’t be disappointed if the decision he makes is not the one you want. There is always the possibility that he won’t make any other attempts to call or see you again. Men are funny like that and he could be thinking any number of things. As I said earlier, maybe he feels that he does not have to have a relationship with you now because he’s already had the sex. Who knows what could be on his mind. Whatever happens from this point on you have to be okay with it. Use it as a learning experience. Do not make the same mistake in your future relationships. <br />
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Remember: There is nothing wrong with playing yourself as long as you learn something from it.<br />
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Excerpts taken from "How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days or Less!" Order your copy today at <a href="http://www.pinkkisspublishing.com/Order-Page.html">Pink Kiss Publishing Online Bookstore</a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-19798111988968974722010-04-03T11:19:00.000-07:002010-04-05T16:30:14.653-07:00Do Women "Train" Men to Lie?Recently I've had some deep conversations with a male friend. It seems that some men have the belief that women TRAIN their men to lie. I was also informed by a man that ALL men LIE!<br />
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My friend explained what he meant by women train men to lie. He said a woman may ask her man's opinion on how she looks in a new dress and he might say "Honey, I don't really like that dress on you." Now she's upset by the comment but doesn't verbalize it.<br />
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Later that night while in bed he reaches over and attempts to have sex with her. She is still upset about his earlier remark about the dress, so she turns her back to him indicating she doesn't want to be touched.<br />
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One week later she gets a new hair style and asks her man what he thinks. Her man remembering the last time he was denied sex for giving his honest opinion, comments that he likes her new hair style, whether he does or not!...<a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2010/04/do-women-train-men-to-lie-originally.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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ALL MEN LIE!!!....<br />
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I don't know why I'm finding this piece of information so hard to believe since the majority of my life, this has been my problem with men. It seems that when men meet me, they feel they need to lie. Either to make themselves appear more than what they are, or they feel the need to try and impress me.<br />
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Now granted, I am a very down to earth woman. I'm a '<i>what you see, is what you get'</i> type of girl. I do not lie under any circumstance. My motto is: "you may not like what I say but I will always tell you the truth." I believe in letting a man make up his own mind about whether or not he wants to be with me. For some reason men have a problem reciprocating this.<br />
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Awhile ago another male friend told me that if men didn't lie they would never get with a "woman like me." Now I had to know what the hell did he mean by "a woman like me?"... He said, "Look at you, you own your own home, you drive a top of the line vehicle, you're accomplished, you're making your own money, you're intelligent and you don't have any KIDS. To top that off you're fine as hell!"<br />
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I had to think about that for a minute, now I don't by any means consider myself to be a great beauty, but do I carry myself in any way that makes a man believe he has to lie in order to get to know me?<br />
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Do I give off any vibes that makes him think I would be anything other than genuine with him because of the person he's presenting himself to be?<br />
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No! I am the same with every man I initially meet, it doesn't matter if he is driving a Benz or riding a bike. Sure like most women I have my own list of standards,but they're not superficial standards i.e., he must be good-looking, he must be at least six feet tall etc. These things don't matter to me. It’s more important where he is mentally and the directions he chooses in life.<br />
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I don't feel that women should have this right taken from us because a man chose to lie and misrepresent himself, in order to "get with us."<br />
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In my experiences, I have found that SOME men lie about such insignificant things.<br />
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Take for example my third ex-husband. When we met he told me that he had been divorced from his first wife for 15 years...however after being engaged for four month, one week before our impending wedding ceremony he sits me down and tells me we need to push the wedding back because he is still married to his first wife and the divorce won't be final for another three weeks. AAAUGH!!!(Not giving up the detail they're in my next book "Through the Eyes of a Woman." But the point is this was a lie he didn't have to tell. Had he only been honest in the beginning, it wouldn't have changed the outcome of the situation.<br />
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I find this information a bit disheartening, which is probably the reason I've been single for the past 2 years. I refuse to compromise my standards because I know that I will eventually find that man who won't find it necessary to lie and deceive to get to where he wants to be. I try to give every man the benefit of the doubt because I'd like to think that there is some good in everyone.<br />
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Men let me hear from you honestly,<br />
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1.) Have you ever lied to get to where you want to be with a woman?<br />
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2.) Would you tell a lie to save your current relationship?<br />
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3.) Do you feel women train their men to lie?<br />
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Ladies, what's your take on the situation, Could you...<br />
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1.) Remain in a relationship with a man who has lied to you?<br />
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2.) Do you feel that you train your man to lie?<br />
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3.) Are women not doing their part by raising their sons to be irresponsible?<br />
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*REPOST* (originally posted 06/2008)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-91040875729954498112010-04-02T13:18:00.000-07:002010-04-03T10:25:35.719-07:00Why Did "YOU" Get Married?There is a lot of excitement buzzing about today’s opening of Tyler Perry’s new movie 'Why Did I Get Married Too.' Many of us will be in attendance to support Tyler Perry as he debuts the sequel to his 2007 hit movie ‘Why Did I Get Married?' Perry is an extremely brilliant film maker who never fails to bring the realism of marriage and relationships across in his movies. <br />
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I decided to repost a blog that was originally written and posted a few years ago which was inspired by ‘Why Did I Get Married?’ <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2010/04/why-did-you-get-married.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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I was having a conversation with a young lady earlier and she asked me, do I ever think about getting married again? I thought about the question before giving my honest answer, Yes, IF I find the right man.<br />
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She then asked if I wanted to know why she got married? This was a rather interesting question, so I said, "Yes, I would love to know why you got married." This was her reply...<br />
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"BECAUSE, I WAS TIRED OF LIVING THE LIFE I WAS LIVING. ONE DAY IT HIT ME, BECAUSE I FELT THERE WAS SOMETHING MISSING IN MY LIFE AND I DECIDED TO TELL MY HUSBAND, (WHO WAS MY BOYFIEND AT THE TIME) THAT WE NEED TO GO BACK TO CHURCH. HE AGREED. <br />
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I REMEMBER MY AUNT TELLING ME ABOUT SHACKING UP, LIVING IN SIN AND WHAT GOD WILL DO TO YOU WHEN YOU LIVE THE WAY ‘YOU’ WANT TO LIVE, AND NOT AS HOW ‘HE’ WANTS YOU TO LIVE.<br />
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I REALIZED, WHEN I READ THE BIBLE THAT MY LIFE IS NOT MINES; IT BELONGS TO THE LORD, SO I GOT SAVED. <br />
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SO MUCH STUFF I DIDN'T KNOW WAS BLINDED BY THIS WORLD. BUT NOW I SEE, SO BY GETTING SAVED AND WANTING TO LIVE RIGHT, I TOLD MY HUSBAND WE NEED TO GET MARRIED. I GAVE HIM A CHOICE MARRY ME OR WE HAVE TO SEPARATE!<br />
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I MEAN, IT'S NOT LIKE HE PROPOSED. WHEN WE GOT MARRIED I WAS 8 MONTHS PREGNANT. I'M GLAD I MADE THAT CHOICE. I MEAN, WHEN YOU GET SAVED AND YOU’RE HAVING SEX IT FEELS LIKE RAPE. BUT IT'S A PROCESS YOU GO THROUGH; YOU'RE NOT GOING TO CHANGE OVER NIGHT. I STOPPED CURSING, BUT IT DIDN’T HAPPEN OVER NIGHT… I STOPPED DOING ALOT OF THINGS. <br />
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BACK THEN, MY MOM USED TO SEND ME TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY AND BIBLE STUDY EVERY WEDNESDAY. I DIDN'T LEARN ANYTHING; I GOT BAPTIZED AT MY AUNT’S CHURCH.<br />
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I GOT BAPTIZED AS A SINNER AND CAME BACK UP A SINNER, BECAUSE I WAS STILL DOING WHAT I WANT TO DO. I DID'NT UNDERSTAND BACK THEN AND I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO HEAVEN BECAUSE I WENT TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY; I WAS HEADING TO HELL, BUT NOW... I THANK GOD I'AM SAVED."<br />
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When I read this young lady’s words it brought tears to my eyes. Because so many of us are out there searching for certain qualities in our relationships but chances are, we’re looking in the wrong places.<br />
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This comment made me think and now I’m asking you…<br />
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Why Did You Get Married?<br />
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This comment is open to everyone. Feel free to be as honest as you like.<br />
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For those of you who are no longer married (divorced or separated) why did you marry the first time and do you think you’ll ever do it again.<br />
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For the single folks...Do you think you’ll ever get married? How important is it to you to get married?<br />
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<a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TheG-SpotwithGlendaWallace">For more interesting relationship topics visit "The G-Spot!"</a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-70936592905756075202009-04-17T11:20:00.000-07:002010-04-03T10:28:48.386-07:00How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days Or Less!<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikRA0zy8PEWTiyWQh8nYGdvy823Oe9d_myoXi0bVxQJHMUmHtMzmMhIVOOY8mWUQ9k0Echv9KnJkzUJ_DSfczOQNhN0Q-hFa0amnWcFMOnyYcFEGDpJmJBBMbDqBGkH5x_c3wK6PKIF1a8/s1600-h/214X321_Cover_HTGHI365DOL.jpg"><img alt="" border="0" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5325727484394815234" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEikRA0zy8PEWTiyWQh8nYGdvy823Oe9d_myoXi0bVxQJHMUmHtMzmMhIVOOY8mWUQ9k0Echv9KnJkzUJ_DSfczOQNhN0Q-hFa0amnWcFMOnyYcFEGDpJmJBBMbDqBGkH5x_c3wK6PKIF1a8/s320/214X321_Cover_HTGHI365DOL.jpg" style="cursor: hand; float: left; height: 320px; margin: 0px 10px 10px 0px; width: 214px;" /></a><br />
A few weeks ago, I decided to unveil my upcoming book <em>“How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days Or Less!”</em> which will be released in a few weeks.<br />
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I am so excited by the interest that this book is generating. I receive emails daily, from women readers asking “When is it coming out?” or “How can I get an advanced copy?” One lady even said she would gladly pay for a copy of my manuscript because she needs help <em>NOW! </em>(lol)<br />
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Every woman has a uniqueness that’s all her own. In this book, I <em>teach </em>you how to use your God given ability to get that <em>special </em>man to put that ring on your finger in 365 days or less.<br />
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This book was inspired by you, my readers who sent countless emails and letters asking for advice on how to <em>convince </em>your man to commit to marriage. And before you start thinking that this book is <em>all </em>about sex, it’s not. A <em>smart </em>woman knows that sex <em>alone </em>will not make a man want to marry you. I don’t care <em>how </em>good it is. (lol)<br />
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Most any woman can find a man who’ll have sex with her, but the real test is, will he marry you? After applying the principles in my book, he will!<br />
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"A few years ago, I was having problems with my boyfriend. He was giving me the hot and cold treatment. One day he was into me, (literally) then I wouldn’t hear from him for weeks. I decided to move to the coast to get away from him and see if it would make him recognize his true feelings for me. I thought it was working because he would call me and ask me to come see him on my days off. I was weak for him, so I had no problem making the 3 ½ hour drive back home just to be with him. But when I got there he’d tell me that we would have to get together later because he’d already made other plans with his buddies. I would spend the remainder of my weekend with my folks.<br />
Glenda and I worked together, and I told her about my problems after one of my disappointing visits. She told me exactly <em>what </em>to do, and <em>how </em>to do it. I was prepared to write my boyfriend off because I was so sure her advice was <em>never </em>going to have <em>any </em>effect on him. However, within the next three weeks he was making the 3 ½ hour drive to come see me. We celebrated our one year wedding anniversary this past February! <br />
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Glenda knows what she’s talking about" . . . Danielle<br />
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When I gave Danielle this advice three years ago, I had yet to begin writing my book. I spoke what I knew and practiced every day in my own relationships. I didn’t give her any crazy ideas or complicated theories.<br />
Danielle is just one of many women who have experienced success in getting her man to put that ring on her finger, by learning what works. My principles will work for any woman. Even <em>YOU!</em> <br />
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Thanks Danielle!<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-86092919850768886022008-10-29T16:02:00.000-07:002010-04-03T10:31:44.027-07:00Does Lesbianism Stem From A Woman's Lack of Sexual Satisfaction From A Man?A friend sent this message to my inbox a few days ago.<br />
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Hey,Glenda<br />
girl i just want to know why do men get right up after cumming . Okay, I'm like, what about me? I mean this has been going on for a while...he better get his act together or I will need therapy .<br />
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Girl, you are so crazy! Okay, for real...what's going on?<br />
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Most of the time, it seems that some men only think about themselves when it comes to sex. Initially when he's trying to get you, his main focus is in pleasing you, but after you've been together for awhile it seems that he only thinks of himself. Most women enjoy the snuggling and cuddling after sex, most men would rather fall asleep!<br />
So what's going on with you two? What do you mean when you say he gets right up after cumming?<br />
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READER:<br />
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It seems like every time he's finish cumming its over. I don't care how long it takes, it doesn't matter that I haven't gotten mines, it's like what about me and my orgasm? This has being going on for years. I just can't keep doing this.<br />
They say that when a man ejaculates it takes his energy and he's tired. But girl if he keeps on doing this I don't know what I'm going to do. I think this is why so many women are lesbians. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/10/does-lesbianism-stem-from-womans-lack.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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Wow...Have you talked to him about it? And what does he say?<br />
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Without knowing all the details, at this point I would suggest communicating to him exactly how you feel and why you feel as you do.<br />
Hopefully, verbally expressing your needs to him will encourage him to take note and be more considerate to your needs!<br />
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I hope everything works out for you!<br />
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At some point during a relationship, many couples experience problems with sexual intimacy. I addressed a similar issue in my blog (To Viagra or NOT To Viagra) a few months ago.Most women enjoy sex and view sexual intimacy as an extremely important part of a relationship.<br />
Ladies and gentlemen, I'd like to know what you think! And men, feel free to answer this young ladies question. <br />
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How would you suggest this young lady handle her problem?<br />
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Do you feel that lesbianism stems from a woman's lack of sexual satisfaction from a man?<br />
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UPDATE**** I originally posted this blog on MySpace and got many interesting answers. Here are just a few...<br />
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*) IT IS A PERSONAL CHOICE, NOT DUE TO A MAN'S INFLUENCE...GREAT POST!...(posted by female reader)<br />
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*) What's up G!! Homosexuality is not a perfect design. It is a good thing gone bad. For males and females alike. I believe that men should have been taught by their mothers and aunts on this subject. On what women need and want from a man. Instead of leaving us guessing, and trying to figure it out. However, there are some who do know, and are willing to let you get yours first, and then we will proceed to our climax. There are some who care about the happiness of others.(posted by Terrence)<br />
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*) sexual dissatisfaction has nothing to do with a woman’s sexual orientation. It may be frustrating to her but that is about it. (posted by Shani) *) MY EX HUSBAND WAS LIKE THIS HE WOULD CUM AND I WAS LEFT LIKE WHAT ABOUT ME. I WOULD GO IN THE BATHROOM AND DO IT MYSELF. I DON'T THINK IT'S THE REASON TO BECOME A LESBIAN. THATS A PERSONAL CHOICE.GREAT BLOG (posted by Brenda)<br />
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*) I think there would be a would between lack of satisfaction with a man to trying to find it with a woman but then again I also think very much that attraction is a major thing. If this young lady feels some attraction for other women then by all means, experiment- you're still young, however if you're not attracted to women, talk to your man or find a new one! And honey you're not alone! Alot alot of men (and I mean alooot) are quite selfish in bed and honestly I either address the situation or leave before it becomes an issue. If your lover cannot satisfy your needs and you feel this hurt by it all, you definately need to speak up and take a stand. All the best =] (posted by MissIntegrityNil)<br />
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*) Hey Glenda! I know I'm late, but I always am..lol! I actually know 2 women that were with men, but because of how they were treated by them (their words), they decided enough was enough and decided to deal with women exclusively. I don't know if they were bi beforehand.<br />
I think if a man truly led a woman to another woman there were more issues than just bad sex. We all have had bad sex, but eventually if you're lucky, u find someone to satisfy u.<br />
Bad sex has never made me want to go be with a woman. She needs to be direct and tell him straight out that him cumming and rollin over going to sleep is for the birds and he needs to get it together.<br />
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I would think that he would feel really stupid the next time they had sex if he didn't accomplish bringing her to the big O, if he cares at all. For your friend's sake, I truly hope she gets hers soon. Nothing worse than pent up Os.:) (posted by Candy Cane)<br />
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What does it mean to be in a <em>real </em>relationship anyway? Many people like to be able to say that they are in a relationship, but they don't fully understand that being in a relationship includes someone else other than self. What happened to the day of a man having his woman's back just as she has his? (And vice versa)<br />
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It seems that the first time one party does something that displeases the other party; somebody's ready to bail . . . giving and taking their shit back.<br />
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And what about love? People use the word too casually when they may not fully understand the concept of love and what it means to love someone. Sure it sounds good to say to someone '<em>I love you'</em>, but what about meaning it?<br />
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I have a problem with people (men) messing up and then saying "I'm sorry" as if saying those words makes the situation okay. Sure it might work the first couple of times, but when you continue the same behavior, at some point, I'm going to get tired of hearing "I'm sorry" because it loses its effectiveness.<br />
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I decided to address this issue because of the many emails that I receive every day from men and women who have the most insignificant problems within their relationship, yet for some couples, the insignificant things are causing the most problems within the relationship. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/10/fake-relationships.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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Most people will tell you that those problems can be avoided by effectively communicating to your partner what your needs are, but what about when he or she doesn't listen? Or they are so caught up in their own world, they can't hear you? How do you handle the situation when the one you love won't listen?<br />
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I have addressed so many blogs about the causes of cheating in relationships and I fully understand why most people choose to cheat. Although I've never done it, it has crossed my mind many times. When a woman feels that she's not valued it is easy for her to find someone else to give the affection, attention and sexual satisfaction that she may be missing in her relationship. She may continue to stay with her man because she loves him and hope that he will eventually get it together and make the necessary changes needed to improve their relationship.<br />
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You see, I have never felt compelled to wait on anyone to change. I know that when a person is set in their ways, change rarely ever occurs. So rather than cheat, I end the relationship.<br />
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Successful relationships require work from both individuals involved. If one party is working toward a successful relationship and the other just doesn't care, the relationship is destined to fail.<br />
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A few days ago, a girlfriend asked me "Why should I have to <em>make</em> my relationship work? I don't want to make it work. It should just work!"<br />
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Awhile back, a male friend said to me "I don't feel my woman appreciates me, when I get home she doesn't give me the proper greeting that I expect. Yesterday I walked in as she was vacuuming the floor, she came so close that the vacuum actually hit my shoe, but instead of reaching over and giving me a kiss as I came through the door, she finished the entire room before she even looked up and acknowledged that I was there. Where is the love in that? How can I feel appreciated?"<br />
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I hear these type comments all day, every day. I guess people tell me their problems and ask for my opinion based on my writing. But most people don't understand that I'm human too and I have my own problems with relationships. Just because someone talks about relationship problems or writes about it, doesn't exempt them from having problems in their relationship. Do you think Dr. Phil doesn't have problems with his relationship/marriage?<br />
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Just to show you what I mean, a few years ago I got into a conversation with a guest playing at my blackjack table. He was an extremely attractive Caucasian male, in his late forties, maybe early fifties, everything about him was attractive; his manner of speaking, his gestures . . . he naturally exuded sexiness. Anyway, as we began talking, he told me that he was a psychologist who practiced family psychotherapy in Miami. I told him that I thought what he did for a living was so cool. Then he said "yeah, well try telling people that you counsel about their relationships that your wife just left you for another man." (Wow!)<br />
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All that to say this, I don't think some people will ever truly understand what makes relationships work. And even if you do recognize and understand what it takes to make a relationship work, doesn't necessarily mean that you will find that mate who is willing to work with you. However, there are many couples out there who are in relationships that work.<br />
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So I'm asking you to share your ideas about what it takes to make a relationship work/last.<br />
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Here are my ideas!<br />
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1.) Common interests. (Something other than sex)<br />
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2.) Can you relate/communicate with each other outside of the bedroom?<br />
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3.) Having similar beliefs and values.<br />
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4.) Trust (Can you trust that individual not to hurt you? Physically, verbally and/or emotionally) <br />
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5.) Loyalty<br />
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6.) Similar lifestyles<br />
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7.) Spiritual background<br />
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8.) A willingness to accept your partner unconditionally (flaws and all)<br />
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9.) Sense of humor (being able to laugh together) <br />
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<a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TheG-SpotwithGlendaWallace">For more interesting relationship topics please visit "The G-Spot!"</a><div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-22788234471194407042008-08-12T14:39:00.000-07:002010-04-03T10:43:37.514-07:00To Viagra or "Not" To Viagra!Recently at one of our girl’s night out functions, a close friend broke down and revealed that her man was experiencing difficulties with "Erectile Dysfunction" and wanted to know what she should do about her man’s impotence. She states that no matter what she does he can’t maintain an erection.<br />
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This led to an in-depth conversation about the sexual performances of men.<br />
Most women have encountered men with some type of sexual problem at some point.<br />
A man’s age is inconsequential in determining whether or not a man will experience some form of an erectile dysfunction. I know this from firsthand experience because it was the cause of the demise of my first marriage.<br />
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Men have it harder than women do because they <em>have</em> to be able to perform. For a woman its different . . . we can be stressed, not feeling well, and all we have to do is grab the lubricant and its all good!<br />
Men can’t fake it or force themselves to perform and there are many factors that contribute to impotence; stress, illness, and fatigue, are just a few of those factors.<br />
Oftentimes, women are quick to blame themselves for her man’s shortcoming. She may think that maybe he is not attracted to her anymore, or maybe he’s having an affair. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/08/to-viagra-or-not-to-viagra.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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Sometime women fail to realize that men are also experiencing strong emotions associate with ED. They too have feelings of inadequacy at not being able to satisfy his woman and may feel that because of this she might go out and find someone who <em>can</em> satisfy her sexual needs!<br />
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This was the belief of my first ex husband, in his case it was premature ejaculation, which caused him to become so suspicious that he became like a prison warden . . . if I left home for any reason he would follow me. His emotional state of mind caused him to become physically and verbally abusive. I eventually got tired of constantly trying to reassure him that no matter what the problem was I wasn’t going to cheat and I ultimately ended the marriage.<br />
So understand that there are many emotions associated with ED.<br />
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Now what can be done about it!<br />
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Today women want a quick fix to the problem. They are quick to suggest to her partner that he go to a doctor and get a supply of <em>blue</em> <em>pills</em>. Twenty years ago during my first marriage Viagra didn’t exist but it is readily available today just by visiting your doctor.<br />
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Now in my friends case, she states that her man won’t admit that he has a problem and his pride refuses to allow him to consult with a doctor. She said that when she suggested Viagra he responded, "I’m 43 years-old and healthy, there is nothing wrong with me!"<br />
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Men, if you have a medical condition that prevents you from taking Viagra, then I do understand your unwillingness to try it. But understand that you are depriving your woman of pleasure which is bound to lead to problems during the relationship or marriage.<br />
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Just the use of a simple drug, which is safe, easy to use and effective could possibly save your marriage or relationship! (Just something to think about!)<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-84211020122914434872008-07-29T19:56:00.000-07:002010-04-03T10:48:57.406-07:00How Do I Get Over A Broken Heart?...I received an e-mail from a woman who was clearly in distress. So much so, that I could feel her pain through her words!!!<br />
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Her man broke off their relationship and didn't give a reason why! She wants to know <em>"How do I get over a broken heart?" </em><br />
I decided to answer this e-mail by blog because I feel her pain...ladies and gentlemen, if you have some ideas, feel free to comment!<br />
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There is never an easy way to accept that a relationship is truly over. Especially if you're not the one wanting it to end, <em>OR</em> if you're not even sure <em>WHY</em> it's ending. When someone breaks up with you it helps to know what went wrong. It is a hurtful feeling when one party thinks that the relationship is fine only to discover that their mate wants out. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/07/i-received-e-mail-from-woman-who-was.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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A woman needs closure when a man breaks it off with her. She needs to know "what did she do" to cause this person to not want a relationship with her anymore. Unfortunately, sometimes we don't get that closure.<br />
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Women share a common bond. We have all at some point in our lives been hurt by a man. It does not matter how pretty or how skinny you are. Skinny girls get hurt just like the big girls. Some of the most beautiful women in the world have been betrayed in a relationship. So when you are going through emotional heartache, know that you are not alone. What is important is how you handle that heartache.<br />
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It's perfectly normal to suffer from low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence after a break up. We all do. Ultimately, you have to learn to heal yourself in order to get over a broken heart! There is no weakness in crying or displaying anger. Cry, throw things, do whatever it takes to get it out of your system. Recognize that grieving is essential to healing and it is okay to grieve when you lose someone you love. Then pick yourself up and begin your healing.<br />
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I don't care if you have eight kids and weigh three hundred pounds. You must begin by seeing the beauty in you. We relate to movies and stories that deal with infidelity because for most women, when we have been hurt by a man we indulge in overeating, excessive alcohol consumption and negative thinking; all of which is self-destructive behavior.<br />
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The healing process takes time, but there are things that you can do to help speed up the process. (Details in "<em>I Need Therapy</em>") The quicker you accept that it's over and get on with your life, the better. Don't waste time hoping he'll change his mind and come back.<br />
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After all, do you really want him back? Think about it, if he can be so insensitive to your feelings and needs why should you accept him back? (Some excerpts taken from "<em>I Need Therapy</em>")<br />
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Copyright (c) 2006<em> I Need Therapy~ Glenda A. Wallace</em><div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-72295221408709449182008-07-10T14:35:00.000-07:002010-04-03T11:02:06.264-07:00How to Get the Man "You" Want to Marry You!Sounds too good to be true? Well it’s not!<br />
There is a misconception that men naturally resist commitment. The truth is most men are not commitment phobic. I have never met a man who wouldn’t commit, yet I receive emails daily from women asking for advice on how to convince their man to commit.<br />
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I get very different reactions from men and women when I tell them I have been married five times and I’ve also had 18 marriage proposals.<br />
Most men are intrigued; they want to know what it is about me that made five men want to make me their wife.<br />
Women are curious; they want to know what I did and how I did it, in order to get five men to make a commitment to marriage. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/07/how-to-get-man-you-want-to-marry-you.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
<a name='more'></a>I often hear from women who say, "I can’t get one man to marry me, and you’ve had five! Is there something wrong with me? Is there something I’m not doing right?"<br />
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Just because you’re not married and have never been proposed to, doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you. You may not be aware of what men are looking for when selecting a wife. Half the time, men don’t know what they are looking for in a wife until it’s staring them in the face.<br />
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The truth is, most men are not commitment phobic. Fact is, a man will commit when he finds what he’s looking for. He may be with you, but may not want a life long commitment with you. Whereas, he may break up with you and marry the next woman he gets involved with.<br />
I didn’t get five husbands and 18 marriage proposals because I’m cute . . . in fact, I’m quite ordinary in the look’s department.<br />
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The men that I’ve been in relationships with usually start discussing marriage within the first three months, without me ever bringing up the subject, dropping hints, or leaving wedding planner guides on the coffee table.<br />
My friends always asked me, "how was I doing it?" Getting a man to commit was never easy for some of them until they used the principles in my book (I Need Therapy) to change their way of thinking. Now most of them are happily married as well!<br />
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The key to getting a man to want to make you his wife is quite simple. You must be the woman he wants to marry. You must possess those qualities that he’s looking to find in a wife.<br />
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He needs to feel that by getting married to you his life will ultimately improve. Therefore, you need to provide a benefit for him that he wouldn’t have without you.<br />
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So, if you’re looking for commitment or marriage, you must <em><strong>be</strong></em> the woman he’s looking for, and you do this by simply working on you. This does not mean to change who you are, and become someone you’re not, but if what you’re doing is not working, then try something different!<br />
In order for a man to see the good in you, someone he’d want to make his wife and share the rest of his life with, you must first see it in yourself. Men are attracted to confident, sexy women. When you love yourself, it shows in everything that you do.<br />
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There are several key elements that a man looks for in a wife, (they are all outlined in detail in my book) but the most important thing that will almost always guarantee a husband, is to make your man feel like <em><strong>the</strong></em> man, which for them is the greatest feeling in the world . . . to be recognized and appreciated for who they are, <em><strong>MEN</strong></em>!<br />
You have to know what <strong><em>he</em></strong> wants and needs, and sometimes in order to achieve the results <strong><em>you</em></strong> want, you have to make him feel as if it was his idea.<br />
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HAPPY HUNTING LADIES! (Lol)<br />
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Chapter excerpt ~ How to Get the Man You Want to Marry You, taken from ~ I Need Therapy<br />
Copyright © 2006 Glenda A. Wallace<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-39455802804265780442008-06-30T10:56:00.000-07:002010-04-05T22:07:25.782-07:00What Men Really Want! (**REPOST**...my most popular blog ever)I decided to post this blog as a follow up to discuss certain issues that women tend to have problems with in relationships. All of this information is already addressed in my book.<br />
When I initially started interviewing men back in the 1980s to gather data for my first book, my original mission was to find out what captured a man's attention when it came to women. I wanted to know what their wants, needs and desires were within a relationship. I found that men are more than happy to tell you waht he looks for in a woman, if you only ask.<br />
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My purpose in wanting this information was two-fold; I wanted to know this information because I was writing a book and because I wanted to be the best woman that I could be for my potential man. At the time, I was nineteen and had never been in an intimate relationship with a man. (Yeah, I was an old virgin)<br />
All of the information that I gathered was extremely helpful to me. I interviewed many different men; black, white, Hispanic, Asian, young and old, it didn't matter, I was on a mission, I wanted answers and I was taking notes.<br />
From all the information I gathered, it all boiled down to SEXUALITY!!! When you ask a man what he looks for and wants in a woman his answers are very different than if you ask this same question to women about what they look for in a man.<br />
Men lean towards the sexual side, and women lean more towards security. We won't get into the differences between men and women, but I do think its important that we address some issues that could potentially save some relationships.<br />
I know that there are many of you living in loveless, sexless, relationships and/or marriages who sit at home and watch Dr. Phil or run out and buy our books to learn how to "fix" your relationship. Although I consider myself to be a relationship author, the primary focus of my books is to educate you on how to fix YOU!!! Hence the title "I Need Therapy." This applies to men as well as women. <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/06/what-men-really-want.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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Just the other day I was having a conversation with a man who claimed that his wife is sexually repressed. "She doesn't want me to go down on her because she thinks its gross. She doesn't enjoy sex at all, so in order to get her to do it, I have to go out and buy her some outrageously expensive gift and then she only gives me repayment sex." he said. "She repays me for my expensive gifts by just lying there and letting me have my way with her. She always has this very bored expression on her face and I can tell she really just wants me to hurry up and get it over with. Asking her to go down on me is out of the question, that shit has only happened twice in the four years that we've been married, then she run to the bathroom and drinks a bottle of mouthwash."<br />
I laughed, for I though this was so funny, yet its common, this was the primary concern that men expressed their displeasure with about the women in their lives.<br />
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Most women want to know what makes me the expert on the subjects that I discuss...<br />
Well, I didn't get 5 husbands and 18 marriage proposals because I'm cute, I did it by taking the time to educate myself on what men really want in their relationships. (being intelligent, independent, etc, also helps) lol<br />
Everyday I get messages and email from women who ask me, "what am I doing wrong in my relationship?" I decided to post this blog so that we can have a quick class on WHAT MEN REALLY WANT!!!(this is just the basics)<br />
For all of you "shy" women who hit up my inbox wanting to know how I could be so open about my sexuality, I had to post this especially for you. Most of the comments that I received had to do with the answers to my "Naughty Bawdy Ten" blog. So this is where I will start...<br />
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1) I am a master masturbator...<br />
I will often masturbate in front of my man. I get off on the expression on his face...this also shows him what I like and how I like to be touched. Men learn so much more by watching than listening...<br />
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Men are visual creatures by nature, which is why I say that they learn so much more by watching than listening. In the past I could tell a man until I was blue in the face, what I wanted, and how I wanted it. (I'm definitely not a shy woman) I could even take his hand and guide it to the spot and display (using his hand) how I wanted to be touched, but as soon as I released his hand, within a few minutes he'd be right back to jabbing and grinding his fingers inside me like he was searching for gold!!! OUCH!!!<br />
It's amazing how after I pleasured myself in front of him, his whole approach changed. Later I would ask him why the change? He said "you've never had such a powerful orgasm with me at any time. I had to learn because I can't let you out do me!!!"...<br />
As I said, allow your man to watch and learn.<br />
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For years I have been interviewing men, looking to find what is really important to them in a relationship. The most popular response was good sex.The complaints range from women not knowing or willing to perform oral sex to THEIR satisfaction, to not getting enough sex. Some even complained that their women had simply let themselves go and were NOT SEXY ENOUGH!When I asked most married men or men who were in a committed relationship what their women wore to bed, the highest percentage said (and not very happily) shorts and a tee shirt.<br />
Ladies, I know shorts and tee shirts are comfortable, but have you really looked at yourself lately or do you just jump into bed? I suggest that the next time you get dressed for bed, take a long, hard look in the mirror. What you see is probably a lot less appealing to your man.<br />
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8) I own a lingerie closet.<br />
You see for me, shorts and tee shirts are NOT comfortable. I'm in my sexy attire nightly, even when I'm sleeping alone. And we won't even discuss those nasty rags that women wear on their heads, you gotta go to the book for that info. (or we could be here all day)<br />
We already know that men live for fantasy. They go to strip clubs, watch porn; they live for fantasy.You should incorporate a little bit of fantasy into your everyday life.<br />
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9) I get wet by orally pleasing my man...<br />
One of the greatest sexual acts for a man is oral sex. If you are good at performing this act, you won't have to worry about anything. I have yet to hear any man say that he doesn't like the feel of his woman's mouth on his manhood, even if she's not good at it. Men define "not good at it" as a lack of enthusiasm. In a sexual relationship, enthusiasm alone can turn a lack-luster experience into a mind-blowing experience.<br />
There is an art to being good at orally satisfying a man. However, if you don't enjoy it, you'd better believe your man will know. So in order to keep a sexually fulfilled man, don't just act like you enjoy it, learn to enjoy it.<br />
Turning a man on orally is a powerful and gratifying feeling. You are in total control. Ask your man to share with you what he wants and what feels good to him. Every man is different and what feels good to one may not be as enjoyable to another. Men are much less complicated than women and can be pleased quite easily once you know what they want...<br />
All right ladies, I hope you enjoyed the preview...now do something with it!!!<br />
Fellas, if I left anything out feel free to let me know!<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-57305309739102582842008-06-27T10:41:00.000-07:002010-04-05T22:11:45.856-07:00Revenge (The Big Payback)The ultimate betrayal is infidelity. Being jilted by a lover can make you want to crawl under a rock and hide. Some women experience extreme depression and withdraw from the outside world. Some become so withdrawn they can't eat or sleep.<br />
For some women its just the opposite; they turn to food for comfort and overeat. Some may retreat to their beds and may not emerge for weeks. Your self-esteem is at an all time low, but after agonizing over what has happened, and your newly single status, there will come a point when grief and sadness will give way to overwhelming rage.<br />
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During this time we can spend hours, days, weeks, plotting and planning our exes downfall. Some women will do just about anything to get back at him. While some women settle for the personal satisfaction of throwing a brick through the windshield of his brand new Range Rover as its parked outside his new woman's house at 2 am, others will take it a step further and report him to the IRS for tax evasion.<br />
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Jessica was tireless in her pursuit of revenge. She was consumed by her quest for payback. She would take days off work and drive hours to stake out her exes new woman's home.<br />
Jessica had been with her man for six years. When she met him he was in a committed relationship with his live-in girlfriend.<br />
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For six years Jessica has been content to be "the other woman" but recently her man had been displaying "suspicious behavior." He began not returning phone calls, breaking dates, and not spending the time he usually spent with her.<br />
During one of Jessica's snoop escapades, (opening his mail) she discovered her man had recently purchased a vehicle which he wasn't driving.<br />
Now comes the dilemma! Who was driving his car?<br />
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Jessica knew that her man was known for buying vehicles for his women. He'd previously bought one for his current live-in girlfriend and also during their relationship he had purchased a vehicle for her.<br />
So now she was on a fact finding mission. She had the year, make and model of this phantom vehicle but she had to find out who was driving it. By going online and creating an account through his wireless<br />
provider, she began checking his phone records. Wouldn't you know it? There was one number that showed up consistently.<br />
By going online and doing a reverse search, she tracked the woman name and address. Hence began the stake outs. Last I heard she was still there...<br />
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Revenge, although it seems like a good idea at the time; takes up too much time and too much energy. In order to recover, it is necessary to release the hurt and anger caused by a betrayl, but at some point you have to learn how to get over it.<br />
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If a man decides he doesn't want to be with you any longer, have some dignity; know that you shouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Acting like an alley-cat only makes him realize he made the right decision by leaving you alone.<br />
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Take Jessica for instance, her life is consumed with investigating what she already knows to be true. "He cheated with you, he'll cheat on you."<br />
Until you let go of obsessive behavior you can never move forward in life. When you allow yourself to get over it, move on without him and become a better person because of it. Now comes your revenge.<br />
The greatest revenge is success!<br />
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Copyright (c) 2006 Glenda A. Wallace ~ I Need Therapy<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-4559174678114740872008-06-26T12:02:00.000-07:002010-04-05T21:36:54.790-07:00Why Won't He Stay Out Of The Strip Club?...Okay here we go again, I was having a discussion with a 38 year old man, who admits that he's obsessed with going to the strip clubs.<br />
As a result of this obsession he’s afraid that he might lose his marriage.<br />
When he told me the amount of time and money he was spending at the strip club, I was shocked and wanted to know WHY?! What the heck was he getting out of giving his money to someone who was going to take it and spend it on <em>HER MAN!</em><br />
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with occasionally visiting a strip club. Its entertainment. For me its like gambling; something you might do for an occasional thrill. However, I do feel that there is something wrong if you spend the majority of your <em>time</em> and <em>money</em> there.<br />
I think you would be better off gambling...at least you’re taking a chance on getting something back... In the strip club you’re guaranteed to get nothing but a hard di@k! And who wants to go home with that? <a href="http://blogsbymsg.blogspot.com/2008/06/why-fuk-wont-he-stay-out-of-strip-club.html">READ MORE...</a><br />
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This man’s wife is someone I know but not very well. From what he says she’s a good girl who tries to do the right thing, but she gets extremely upset when he comes home on payday with <em>NO MONEY</em>, but he lies and tells her that he lost his paycheck gambling at the casino. This fool actually spends his whole paycheck at the strip club!<br />
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Now of course, I had to ask him, "What is more important to you, your wife and family, or your daily visits to the strip club?"<br />
He claims that his wife is.<br />
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I ask if he's ever gone out with and/or had sex, or any type sexual contact with any of the dancers other than in the club and he said, "No, I don't actually want to get with them, its just something about being there that does it for me?"<br />
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To me this was strange...<br />
So I want to hear your thoughts....<br />
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Ladies,<br />
1.) Have you ever been in a relationship with/or known someone who was obsessed with strip clubs, porn or any other type obsession that threatened your relationship?<br />
2.) What are your suggestions for someone in this position?<br />
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Men,<br />
2.) Have you ever had/or know of anyone who has had an obsession with strip clubs, porn or any other obsession that has threatened a relationship.<br />
3.) What are your suggestions for someone in this position?<br />
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As always, your honesty is much appreciated.<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-82704129310062344292008-06-26T09:49:00.000-07:002010-04-03T11:10:42.381-07:00What Sould I Do?Recently I had a conversation with a young lady who has been dating her current boyfriend for about 3 months.<br />
She complains that during the entire three months that they’ve been dating he’s been staying at her house. I asked her to explain what she meant by "staying there."<br />
She said, "When I get off work, he’s already in my driveway waiting for me to get there. He sleeps there every night (with the exception of a couple of nights when we got into a heated discussion) and every day that I’m off, we spend the entire day together.<br />
But the problem I’m having is...he hasn’t once offered to help me pay any of the expenses.<br />
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Since we’ve been together my household expenses have gone up.<br />
My water bill is higher because he takes showers as often, sometimes more than I do. My electric bill is higher because when we sleep at night the temperature seems to be higher due to the fact that we have that body heat between us, so I have to keep the thermostat lower than normal. And my grocery bill is higher because I cooking for two now, rather than just me. I have tried to explain to him that if he’s going to be here he needs to contribute in some way, but he always complains that he has his own expenses to pay. Since he does have a house, although he never stays there, he has even suggested that we spend sometime at his house but I’m simply not comfortable there. But the killer part is, he can take his money and go buy expensive toys . . . like a $500.00 Apple IPhone.<br />
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I care for this man but I don’t know what I should do about our relationship. Can you give me any pointers?<br />
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So readers, what’s your take on the situation? How would you suggest this young lady handle this problem?<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-24601062262265029922008-06-24T00:16:00.000-07:002010-04-03T11:11:46.686-07:00Do Women "Train" Men To Lie?...Recently I've been having some deep conversations with a male friend. It seems that some men have the belief that women TRAIN their men to lie. I was also informed by a man that ALL men LIE!<br />
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My friend explained what he meant by women "TRAIN" men to lie. He said a woman may ask her man's opinion on how she looks in a new dress and he might say "Honey, I don't really like that dress on you." Now she's upset but doesn't verbalize it.<br />
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Later that night in bed he reaches over and attempts to have sex with her. She’s still upset about his remark about the dress so she turns her back to him, indicating she doesn't want to be touched.<br />
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One week later she gets a new hair style and asks her man what he thinks. Her man remembering the last time he was denied sex for giving his honest opinion, comments that he likes her new hair style, whether he does or not!...<br />
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ALL MEN LIE!!!....<br />
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I don't know why I'm finding this piece of information so hard to believe since the majority of my life, this has been my problem with men. It seems that when men meet me, they feel they need to lie. Either to make themselves appear more than what they are, or for some reason they feel that they need to impress me.<br />
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Now granted, I am a very down to earth woman. I'm a <i>what you see, is what you get type of girl.</i> I do not lie under any circumstance. My motto is: "you may not like what I say but I will always tell you the truth." I believe in letting a man make up his own mind about whether or not he wants to be with me. For some reason men have a problem reciprocating this.<br />
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Awhile ago another male friend told me that if men didn't lie they would never get with a "woman like me." Now I had to know what the hell did he mean by "a woman like me?"... He said look at you, you own your own home, you have a nice ride, you're accomplished, you're making your own money, you're intelligent and you don't have any KIDS. To top that off you're fine as hell!<br />
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I had to think about that for a minute, now I don't by any means consider myself to be a great beauty, but do I carry myself in any way that makes a man believe he has to lie to me in order to get to know me?<br />
Do I give off any vibes that makes him believe I would be anything other than genuine with him because of the person he's presenting himself to be?<br />
No! I am the same with every man I initially meet, it doesn't matter if he's driving a Benz, or riding a bike. Sure like most women I have my own list of standards,but they're not superficial standards i.e., he must be good-looking, he must be at least six feet tall etc. These things don't matter to me. It’s more important where he is mentally and the directions he chooses in life.<br />
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I don't feel that we (women) should have this right taken from us because a man chose to lie and misrepresent himself, in order to "get with us."<br />
In my experiences with men, I have found that SOME men lie about such insignificant things.<br />
Take for example my third ex-husband. When we met he told me that he had been divorced from his first wife for 15 years...however after being engaged for four month, one week before our impending wedding ceremony he sits me down and tells me we need to push the wedding back because he is still married to his first wife and the divorce won't be final for another three weeks. AAAUGH!!!(Not giving up the detail they're in my next book "Through the Eyes of a Woman." But the point is this was a lie he didn't have to tell. Had he only been honest in the beginning, it wouldn't have changed the outcome of the situation.<br />
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I find this information a bit disheartening, which is probably the reason I've been single for the past 2 years. I refuse to compromise my standards because I know that I will eventually find that man who won't find it necessary to lie and deceive to get to where he wants to be. I try to give every man the benefit of the doubt because I'd like to think that there is some good in everyone.<br />
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Men let me hear from you honestly,<br />
1.) Have you ever lied to get to where you want to be with a woman?<br />
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2.) Would you tell a lie to save your current relationship?<br />
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3.) Do you feel women train their men to lie?<br />
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Ladies, what's your take on the situation, Could you...<br />
1.) Remain in a relationship with a man who has lied to you?<br />
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2.) Do you feel that you train your man to lie?<br />
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3.) Are women not doing their part by raising their sons to be irresponsible?<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-47704489888363561102008-06-23T23:57:00.000-07:002010-04-02T13:31:34.555-07:00Why Did "YOU" Get Married?I was having a conversation with a young lady earlier and she asked me a question...Do I ever think about getting married again? I thought about the question before giving my honest answer...Yes, IF I find the right man.<br />
Then she asked if I wanted to know why she got married? This was a rather interesting question, so I said, "yes, I would love to know why you got married." This was her reply to me...<br />
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"BECAUSE, I WAS TIRED OF LIVING THE LIFE I WAS LIVING. ONE DAY IT HIT ME, BECAUSE I FELT THERE WAS SOMETHING MISSING IN MY LIFE AND I DECIDED TO TELL MY HUSBAND, (WHO WAS MY BOYFIEND AT THE TIME) THAT WE NEED TO GO BACK TO CHURCH. HE AGREED. <br />
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I REMEMBER MY AUNT TELLING ME ABOUT SHACKING UP, LIVING IN SIN AND WHAT GOD WILL DO TO YOU WHEN YOU LIVE THE WAY ‘YOU’ WANT TO LIVE, AND NOT AS HOW ‘HE’ WANTS YOU TO LIVE.<br />
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I REALIZED, WHEN I READ THE BIBLE THAT MY LIFE IS NOT MINES; IT BELONGS TO THE LORD, SO I GOT SAVED. <br />
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SO MUCH STUFF I DIDN'T KNOW WAS BLINDED BY THIS WORLD. BUT NOW I SEE, SO BY GETTING SAVED AND WANTING TO LIVE RIGHT, I TOLD MY HUSBAND WE NEED TO GET MARRIED. I GAVE HIM A CHOICE MARRY ME OR WE HAVE TO SEPARATE!<br />
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I MEAN, IT'S NOT LIKE HE PROPOSED. WHEN WE GOT MARRIED I WAS 8 MONTHS PREGNANT. I'M GLAD I MADE THAT CHOICE. I MEAN, WHEN YOU GET SAVED AND YOU’RE HAVING SEX IT FEELS LIKE RAPE. BUT IT'S A PROCESS YOU GO THROUGH; YOU'RE NOT GOING TO CHANGE OVER NIGHT. I STOPPED CURSING, BUT IT DIDN’T HAPPEN OVER NIGHT… I STOPPED DOING ALOT OF THINGS. <br />
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BACK THEN, MY MOM USED TO SEND ME TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY AND BIBLE STUDY EVERY WEDNESDAY. I DIDN'T LEARN ANYTHING; I GOT BAPTIZED AT MY AUNT’S CHURCH.<br />
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I GOT BAPTIZED AS A SINNER AND CAME BACK UP A SINNER, BECAUSE I WAS STILL DOING WHAT I WANT TO DO. I DID'NT UNDERSTAND BACK THEN AND I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO HEAVEN BECAUSE I WENT TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY; I WAS HEADING TO HELL, BUT NOW... I THANK GOD I'AM SAVED."<br />
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When I read this young ladies words it brought tears to my eyes. Because so many of us are out there searching for certain qualities in our relationships but chances are, we’re looking in the wrong places. <br />
This comment started me to thinking and decided to ask you....<br />
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Why Did You Get Married?<br />
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This comment is open to everyone. Feel free to be as honest as you like.<br />
For those of you who are no longer married (divorced or separated) Why did you marry the first time and do you think you’ll ever do it again.<br />
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For the single folks...Do you think you’ll ever get married? How important is it to you to get married?<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3584117531492531894.post-8802007080185420622008-06-23T22:53:00.000-07:002008-06-26T18:14:15.148-07:00What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?I received this message in my inbox this morning. I thought it was important to post this blog because we commonly hear the term "Soul Mate" used in reference to relationships. I’d like to know your thoughts on this one too so here goes...<br /><br />Hi Ms Wallace, I've followed your blogs off and on for some time but have never posted. Recently the term "Soul Mate" keeps popping up in my conversations with friends and family. Is there such a phenomena? I am married, I've been with my husband for a total of 15 years, married for the last 4 years, but recently, my "Soul Mate" got married. This absolutely broke my heart. Although I got married 4 years ago, I've never been so hurt. I actually felt heart-break for the first time. My husband knows all about this man. He held my hand, and held me up asI cried and over my "loss". I love my husband, we have 3 beautiful children, all is well in our lives, EXCEPT for the the fact that I have never gotten over my ex. We have kept up with other, off and on, over the past 18 years. Before my husband and I got married, while dating, I cheated on him several times with my ex. Over the past year, I knew that he was engaged, respected his situation and gave him his space. The last couple of times that we talked, we tried to get closure. Now that he's gotten married I feel like I've lost a part of myself.When I talk about my situation with friends and family, they always ask the same thing, my husband also asked me this, "Why didn't you just stay with him, or marry him?"My reply is the same, "Because I didn't want to live the life that he lived, we didn't have the same goals and aspirations." He lives a very military & structured life, where as I've always been a "free-spirit" and is more interested in living a less-structured, happy-go-lucky lifestyle,..... plus I love my husband, and he loves me we make a good team.<br />*********************<br /><br />My best friend on the other hand has recently ended a 12 year relationship with her fiancee. She claims that she always knew that her fiancee was never her "Soul Mate". She is 31 and has met another guy and is really into him. They've been dating for 3 months and she is the happiest that I've seen her in years. The fact that she says that her ex was never her "Soul Mate" What does that mean? How does she know? What the hell is a "Soul Mate" and how do you ever get over them?<br /><br />********************<br />A friend of mine is currently dating a guy. She cheated on him and is now pregnant for the guy that she cheated with. She really does not want to be with the guy she is dating, but the guy that she is pregnant by is a no good drug dealer with no future; but, she just can't get over him. According to her, he is her ......"Soul Mate".I would love for you to post a blog asking your audience their thoughts on what a "soul mate" is, do you ever get over a "soul mate" etc...<br /><br />So I ask ladies and gentlemen....<br /><br />What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?<br /><br />1.) What is a soul mate?<br />2.) How do you know if someone is your soul mate?<br />3.) If you ever miss out on, or lose the person you consider to be your soul mate, could you ever find another one?<br />4.) How do you ever get over them? or, Do you ever get over them?<br /><br />As always, your honesty is much appreciated!<div class="blogger-post-footer">Blogging Fusion <a href="http://www.bloggingfusion.com/" title="Blogging Fusion Blog Directory">Blog Directory</a></div>Glenda Wallacehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12553477588099328700noreply@blogger.com0