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Okay here we go again, I was having a discussion with a 38 year old man, who admits that he's obsessed with going to the strip clubs.
As a result of this obsession he’s afraid that he might lose his marriage.
When he told me the amount of time and money he was spending at the strip club, I was shocked and wanted to know WHY?! What the heck was he getting out of giving his money to someone who was going to take it and spend it on HER MAN!
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with occasionally visiting a strip club. Its entertainment. For me its like gambling; something you might do for an occasional thrill. However, I do feel that there is something wrong if you spend the majority of your time and money there.
I think you would be better off gambling...at least you’re taking a chance on getting something back... In the strip club you’re guaranteed to get nothing but a hard di@k! And who wants to go home with that? READ MORE...
Showing posts with label dishonesty. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dishonesty. Show all posts
Do Women "Train" Men To Lie?...
Recently I've been having some deep conversations with a male friend. It seems that some men have the belief that women TRAIN their men to lie. I was also informed by a man that ALL men LIE!
My friend explained what he meant by women "TRAIN" men to lie. He said a woman may ask her man's opinion on how she looks in a new dress and he might say "Honey, I don't really like that dress on you." Now she's upset but doesn't verbalize it.
Later that night in bed he reaches over and attempts to have sex with her. She’s still upset about his remark about the dress so she turns her back to him, indicating she doesn't want to be touched.
One week later she gets a new hair style and asks her man what he thinks. Her man remembering the last time he was denied sex for giving his honest opinion, comments that he likes her new hair style, whether he does or not!...
ALL MEN LIE!!!....
I don't know why I'm finding this piece of information so hard to believe since the majority of my life, this has been my problem with men. It seems that when men meet me, they feel they need to lie. Either to make themselves appear more than what they are, or for some reason they feel that they need to impress me.
Now granted, I am a very down to earth woman. I'm a what you see, is what you get type of girl. I do not lie under any circumstance. My motto is: "you may not like what I say but I will always tell you the truth." I believe in letting a man make up his own mind about whether or not he wants to be with me. For some reason men have a problem reciprocating this.
Awhile ago another male friend told me that if men didn't lie they would never get with a "woman like me." Now I had to know what the hell did he mean by "a woman like me?"... He said look at you, you own your own home, you have a nice ride, you're accomplished, you're making your own money, you're intelligent and you don't have any KIDS. To top that off you're fine as hell!
I had to think about that for a minute, now I don't by any means consider myself to be a great beauty, but do I carry myself in any way that makes a man believe he has to lie to me in order to get to know me?
Do I give off any vibes that makes him believe I would be anything other than genuine with him because of the person he's presenting himself to be?
No! I am the same with every man I initially meet, it doesn't matter if he's driving a Benz, or riding a bike. Sure like most women I have my own list of standards,but they're not superficial standards i.e., he must be good-looking, he must be at least six feet tall etc. These things don't matter to me. It’s more important where he is mentally and the directions he chooses in life.
I don't feel that we (women) should have this right taken from us because a man chose to lie and misrepresent himself, in order to "get with us."
In my experiences with men, I have found that SOME men lie about such insignificant things.
Take for example my third ex-husband. When we met he told me that he had been divorced from his first wife for 15 years...however after being engaged for four month, one week before our impending wedding ceremony he sits me down and tells me we need to push the wedding back because he is still married to his first wife and the divorce won't be final for another three weeks. AAAUGH!!!(Not giving up the detail they're in my next book "Through the Eyes of a Woman." But the point is this was a lie he didn't have to tell. Had he only been honest in the beginning, it wouldn't have changed the outcome of the situation.
I find this information a bit disheartening, which is probably the reason I've been single for the past 2 years. I refuse to compromise my standards because I know that I will eventually find that man who won't find it necessary to lie and deceive to get to where he wants to be. I try to give every man the benefit of the doubt because I'd like to think that there is some good in everyone.
Men let me hear from you honestly,
1.) Have you ever lied to get to where you want to be with a woman?
2.) Would you tell a lie to save your current relationship?
3.) Do you feel women train their men to lie?
Ladies, what's your take on the situation, Could you...
1.) Remain in a relationship with a man who has lied to you?
2.) Do you feel that you train your man to lie?
3.) Are women not doing their part by raising their sons to be irresponsible?
My friend explained what he meant by women "TRAIN" men to lie. He said a woman may ask her man's opinion on how she looks in a new dress and he might say "Honey, I don't really like that dress on you." Now she's upset but doesn't verbalize it.
Later that night in bed he reaches over and attempts to have sex with her. She’s still upset about his remark about the dress so she turns her back to him, indicating she doesn't want to be touched.
One week later she gets a new hair style and asks her man what he thinks. Her man remembering the last time he was denied sex for giving his honest opinion, comments that he likes her new hair style, whether he does or not!...
ALL MEN LIE!!!....
I don't know why I'm finding this piece of information so hard to believe since the majority of my life, this has been my problem with men. It seems that when men meet me, they feel they need to lie. Either to make themselves appear more than what they are, or for some reason they feel that they need to impress me.
Now granted, I am a very down to earth woman. I'm a what you see, is what you get type of girl. I do not lie under any circumstance. My motto is: "you may not like what I say but I will always tell you the truth." I believe in letting a man make up his own mind about whether or not he wants to be with me. For some reason men have a problem reciprocating this.
Awhile ago another male friend told me that if men didn't lie they would never get with a "woman like me." Now I had to know what the hell did he mean by "a woman like me?"... He said look at you, you own your own home, you have a nice ride, you're accomplished, you're making your own money, you're intelligent and you don't have any KIDS. To top that off you're fine as hell!
I had to think about that for a minute, now I don't by any means consider myself to be a great beauty, but do I carry myself in any way that makes a man believe he has to lie to me in order to get to know me?
Do I give off any vibes that makes him believe I would be anything other than genuine with him because of the person he's presenting himself to be?
No! I am the same with every man I initially meet, it doesn't matter if he's driving a Benz, or riding a bike. Sure like most women I have my own list of standards,but they're not superficial standards i.e., he must be good-looking, he must be at least six feet tall etc. These things don't matter to me. It’s more important where he is mentally and the directions he chooses in life.
I don't feel that we (women) should have this right taken from us because a man chose to lie and misrepresent himself, in order to "get with us."
In my experiences with men, I have found that SOME men lie about such insignificant things.
Take for example my third ex-husband. When we met he told me that he had been divorced from his first wife for 15 years...however after being engaged for four month, one week before our impending wedding ceremony he sits me down and tells me we need to push the wedding back because he is still married to his first wife and the divorce won't be final for another three weeks. AAAUGH!!!(Not giving up the detail they're in my next book "Through the Eyes of a Woman." But the point is this was a lie he didn't have to tell. Had he only been honest in the beginning, it wouldn't have changed the outcome of the situation.
I find this information a bit disheartening, which is probably the reason I've been single for the past 2 years. I refuse to compromise my standards because I know that I will eventually find that man who won't find it necessary to lie and deceive to get to where he wants to be. I try to give every man the benefit of the doubt because I'd like to think that there is some good in everyone.
Men let me hear from you honestly,
1.) Have you ever lied to get to where you want to be with a woman?
2.) Would you tell a lie to save your current relationship?
3.) Do you feel women train their men to lie?
Ladies, what's your take on the situation, Could you...
1.) Remain in a relationship with a man who has lied to you?
2.) Do you feel that you train your man to lie?
3.) Are women not doing their part by raising their sons to be irresponsible?
What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?
I received this message in my inbox this morning. I thought it was important to post this blog because we commonly hear the term "Soul Mate" used in reference to relationships. I’d like to know your thoughts on this one too so here goes...
Hi Ms Wallace, I've followed your blogs off and on for some time but have never posted. Recently the term "Soul Mate" keeps popping up in my conversations with friends and family. Is there such a phenomena? I am married, I've been with my husband for a total of 15 years, married for the last 4 years, but recently, my "Soul Mate" got married. This absolutely broke my heart. Although I got married 4 years ago, I've never been so hurt. I actually felt heart-break for the first time. My husband knows all about this man. He held my hand, and held me up asI cried and over my "loss". I love my husband, we have 3 beautiful children, all is well in our lives, EXCEPT for the the fact that I have never gotten over my ex. We have kept up with other, off and on, over the past 18 years. Before my husband and I got married, while dating, I cheated on him several times with my ex. Over the past year, I knew that he was engaged, respected his situation and gave him his space. The last couple of times that we talked, we tried to get closure. Now that he's gotten married I feel like I've lost a part of myself.When I talk about my situation with friends and family, they always ask the same thing, my husband also asked me this, "Why didn't you just stay with him, or marry him?"My reply is the same, "Because I didn't want to live the life that he lived, we didn't have the same goals and aspirations." He lives a very military & structured life, where as I've always been a "free-spirit" and is more interested in living a less-structured, happy-go-lucky lifestyle,..... plus I love my husband, and he loves me we make a good team.
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My best friend on the other hand has recently ended a 12 year relationship with her fiancee. She claims that she always knew that her fiancee was never her "Soul Mate". She is 31 and has met another guy and is really into him. They've been dating for 3 months and she is the happiest that I've seen her in years. The fact that she says that her ex was never her "Soul Mate" What does that mean? How does she know? What the hell is a "Soul Mate" and how do you ever get over them?
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A friend of mine is currently dating a guy. She cheated on him and is now pregnant for the guy that she cheated with. She really does not want to be with the guy she is dating, but the guy that she is pregnant by is a no good drug dealer with no future; but, she just can't get over him. According to her, he is her ......"Soul Mate".I would love for you to post a blog asking your audience their thoughts on what a "soul mate" is, do you ever get over a "soul mate" etc...
So I ask ladies and gentlemen....
What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?
1.) What is a soul mate?
2.) How do you know if someone is your soul mate?
3.) If you ever miss out on, or lose the person you consider to be your soul mate, could you ever find another one?
4.) How do you ever get over them? or, Do you ever get over them?
As always, your honesty is much appreciated!
Hi Ms Wallace, I've followed your blogs off and on for some time but have never posted. Recently the term "Soul Mate" keeps popping up in my conversations with friends and family. Is there such a phenomena? I am married, I've been with my husband for a total of 15 years, married for the last 4 years, but recently, my "Soul Mate" got married. This absolutely broke my heart. Although I got married 4 years ago, I've never been so hurt. I actually felt heart-break for the first time. My husband knows all about this man. He held my hand, and held me up asI cried and over my "loss". I love my husband, we have 3 beautiful children, all is well in our lives, EXCEPT for the the fact that I have never gotten over my ex. We have kept up with other, off and on, over the past 18 years. Before my husband and I got married, while dating, I cheated on him several times with my ex. Over the past year, I knew that he was engaged, respected his situation and gave him his space. The last couple of times that we talked, we tried to get closure. Now that he's gotten married I feel like I've lost a part of myself.When I talk about my situation with friends and family, they always ask the same thing, my husband also asked me this, "Why didn't you just stay with him, or marry him?"My reply is the same, "Because I didn't want to live the life that he lived, we didn't have the same goals and aspirations." He lives a very military & structured life, where as I've always been a "free-spirit" and is more interested in living a less-structured, happy-go-lucky lifestyle,..... plus I love my husband, and he loves me we make a good team.
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My best friend on the other hand has recently ended a 12 year relationship with her fiancee. She claims that she always knew that her fiancee was never her "Soul Mate". She is 31 and has met another guy and is really into him. They've been dating for 3 months and she is the happiest that I've seen her in years. The fact that she says that her ex was never her "Soul Mate" What does that mean? How does she know? What the hell is a "Soul Mate" and how do you ever get over them?
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A friend of mine is currently dating a guy. She cheated on him and is now pregnant for the guy that she cheated with. She really does not want to be with the guy she is dating, but the guy that she is pregnant by is a no good drug dealer with no future; but, she just can't get over him. According to her, he is her ......"Soul Mate".I would love for you to post a blog asking your audience their thoughts on what a "soul mate" is, do you ever get over a "soul mate" etc...
So I ask ladies and gentlemen....
What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?
1.) What is a soul mate?
2.) How do you know if someone is your soul mate?
3.) If you ever miss out on, or lose the person you consider to be your soul mate, could you ever find another one?
4.) How do you ever get over them? or, Do you ever get over them?
As always, your honesty is much appreciated!
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