How Do I Get Over A Broken Heart?...

I received an e-mail from a woman who was clearly in distress. So much so, that I could feel her pain through her words!!!

Her man broke off their relationship and didn't give a reason why! She wants to know "How do I get over a broken heart?"
I decided to answer this e-mail by blog because I feel her pain...ladies and gentlemen, if you have some ideas, feel free to comment!

There is never an easy way to accept that a relationship is truly over. Especially if you're not the one wanting it to end, OR if you're not even sure WHY it's ending. When someone breaks up with you it helps to know what went wrong. It is a hurtful feeling when one party thinks that the relationship is fine only to discover that their mate wants out. READ MORE...

A woman needs closure when a man breaks it off with her. She needs to know "what did she do" to cause this person to not want a relationship with her anymore. Unfortunately, sometimes we don't get that closure.

Women share a common bond. We have all at some point in our lives been hurt by a man. It does not matter how pretty or how skinny you are. Skinny girls get hurt just like the big girls. Some of the most beautiful women in the world have been betrayed in a relationship. So when you are going through emotional heartache, know that you are not alone. What is important is how you handle that heartache.

It's perfectly normal to suffer from low self-esteem or lack of self-confidence after a break up. We all do. Ultimately, you have to learn to heal yourself in order to get over a broken heart! There is no weakness in crying or displaying anger. Cry, throw things, do whatever it takes to get it out of your system. Recognize that grieving is essential to healing and it is okay to grieve when you lose someone you love. Then pick yourself up and begin your healing.

I don't care if you have eight kids and weigh three hundred pounds. You must begin by seeing the beauty in you. We relate to movies and stories that deal with infidelity because for most women, when we have been hurt by a man we indulge in overeating, excessive alcohol consumption and negative thinking; all of which is self-destructive behavior.

The healing process takes time, but there are things that you can do to help speed up the process. (Details in "I Need Therapy") The quicker you accept that it's over and get on with your life, the better. Don't waste time hoping he'll change his mind and come back.

After all, do you really want him back? Think about it, if he can be so insensitive to your feelings and needs why should you accept him back? (Some excerpts taken from "I Need Therapy")

Copyright (c) 2006 I Need Therapy~ Glenda A. Wallace