Ain't No Love There!

I received this in my inbox a few days ago. I am posting it with the permission of the reader.

READER'S COMMENT:

Ms Glenda, I am one of those people who read your blogs all the time, but never comment. I just ordered your book and can't wait to get it because I swear I need it right now. I am so embarrassed for what I'm about to tell you. Right now, I feel cheap, used and my self esteem is so low.

I've been dating a man that I work with for the past 3 months. I consider our relationship to be okay. We see each other maybe once or twice a week. He tells me that he is in love with me, but sometimes I'm not sure. Last night he called me at 11:30 and asked me to come over. I was already in bed, so I asked him why he didn’t come over to my house. He said because he's already in bed and didn't want to get up then he said, "Oh by the way, can you stop by Wendy's and get me a double cheese meal cause I'm kinda hungry." Needless to say, the closest Wendy's is 10 minutes out of the way and it's pouring down raining, but because I do love him, I do it. When I finally get to his place he answers the door and takes the food out of my hand. I follow him as he returns to the bed to eat and I sit watching him from the chair. When he's done he tells me to take my clothes off, which I do. Read More...

When Should Someone Disclose that they have Served Time in Prison?

Recently I had a conversation with a man who confessed that he was having problems establishing relationships with women because when he tells them that he has served 20 years in prison, they immediately want nothing else to do with him. Not even conversation!

So he asked me if he should wait until the relationship becomes more serious before disclosing this piece of information.

Now, I definitely disagree with his way of thinking. First of all, I've been in this situation on several occasions. No, I've never dated a convicted felon, but I've known men who have misrepresent themselves at the beginning of the relationship, then later, as the relationship or marriage progressed the truth came out. Many women can relate to the disappointment of discovering that her partner has intentionally withheld important information from her.

I'm not being judgmental when I speak about convicted felons; people make bad decisions every day. It is understood by most, that after serving time, you are considered to have "paid your debt to society", but there is something wrong if you're not being upfront and totally honest with someone you are pursuing a relationship with. Read More...