Let's Talk About Sex!

Okay ladies, we have established how men feel about sex. Sex is one of a man’s basic needs. Sometimes, their minds are constantly preoccupied with thoughts about sex throughout a day. It doesn’t matter what his day consists of, sex is never far from his mind. He can have a big project due at work, yet he will still find time to think of sex.

 I have never met a man who has refused or had no interest in sex, but on the flip side of that, it is important to recognize that sex alone will not get him to put that ring on your finger. I don't care how good it is.
One important thing to remember when it comes to sex is that you are in control. A man can only connect with you sexually if you allow him to. Women will always have that power over a man. Unfortunately, some women abuse that power. Some women use sex as a bargaining tool. It is a big taboo that men feel that women give it up initially to get him, but as the relationship progresses, men claim that women tend to withhold sex or ration sexual favors in order to get what she wants. READ MORE...

Why Did "YOU" Get Married?

There is a lot of excitement buzzing about today’s opening of Tyler Perry’s new movie 'Why Did I Get Married Too.' Many of us will be in attendance to support Tyler Perry as he debuts the sequel to his 2007 hit movie ‘Why Did I Get Married?' Perry is an extremely brilliant film maker who never fails to bring the realism of marriage and relationships across in his movies.

I decided to repost a blog that was originally written and posted a few years ago which was inspired by ‘Why Did I Get Married?’ READ MORE...

How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days Or Less!

A few weeks ago, I decided to unveil my upcoming book “How to Get Him to Put That Ring on Your Finger in 365 Days Or Less!” which will be released in a few weeks.

I am so excited by the interest that this book is generating. I receive emails daily, from women readers asking “When is it coming out?” or “How can I get an advanced copy?” One lady even said she would gladly pay for a copy of my manuscript because she needs help NOW! (lol)

Every woman has a uniqueness that’s all her own. In this book, I teach you how to use your God given ability to get that special man to put that ring on your finger in 365 days or less.

This book was inspired by you, my readers who sent countless emails and letters asking for advice on how to convince your man to commit to marriage. And before you start thinking that this book is all about sex, it’s not. A smart woman knows that sex alone will not make a man want to marry you. I don’t care how good it is. (lol)

Most any woman can find a man who’ll have sex with her, but the real test is, will he marry you? After applying the principles in my book, he will!

But don’t take my word for it . . . READ MORE...

To Viagra or "Not" To Viagra!

Recently at one of our girl’s night out functions, a close friend broke down and revealed that her man was experiencing difficulties with "Erectile Dysfunction" and wanted to know what she should do about her man’s impotence. She states that no matter what she does he can’t maintain an erection.

This led to an in-depth conversation about the sexual performances of men.
Most women have encountered men with some type of sexual problem at some point.
A man’s age is inconsequential in determining whether or not a man will experience some form of an erectile dysfunction. I know this from firsthand experience because it was the cause of the demise of my first marriage.

Men have it harder than women do because they have to be able to perform. For a woman its different . . . we can be stressed, not feeling well, and all we have to do is grab the lubricant and its all good!
Men can’t fake it or force themselves to perform and there are many factors that contribute to impotence; stress, illness, and fatigue, are just a few of those factors.
Oftentimes, women are quick to blame themselves for her man’s shortcoming. She may think that maybe he is not attracted to her anymore, or maybe he’s having an affair. READ MORE...

How to Get the Man "You" Want to Marry You!

Sounds too good to be true? Well it’s not!
There is a misconception that men naturally resist commitment. The truth is most men are not commitment phobic. I have never met a man who wouldn’t commit, yet I receive emails daily from women asking for advice on how to convince their man to commit.

I get very different reactions from men and women when I tell them I have been married five times and I’ve also had 18 marriage proposals.
Most men are intrigued; they want to know what it is about me that made five men want to make me their wife.
Women are curious; they want to know what I did and how I did it, in order to get five men to make a commitment to marriage. READ MORE...

Why Won't He Stay Out Of The Strip Club?...

Okay here we go again, I was having a discussion with a 38 year old man, who admits that he's obsessed with going to the strip clubs.
As a result of this obsession he’s afraid that he might lose his marriage.
When he told me the amount of time and money he was spending at the strip club, I was shocked and wanted to know WHY?! What the heck was he getting out of giving his money to someone who was going to take it and spend it on HER MAN!
Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with occasionally visiting a strip club. Its entertainment. For me its like gambling; something you might do for an occasional thrill. However, I do feel that there is something wrong if you spend the majority of your time and money there.
I think you would be better off gambling...at least you’re taking a chance on getting something back... In the strip club you’re guaranteed to get nothing but a hard di@k! And who wants to go home with that? READ MORE...

Why Did "YOU" Get Married?

I was having a conversation with a young lady earlier and she asked me a question...Do I ever think about getting married again? I thought about the question before giving my honest answer...Yes, IF I find the right man.
Then she asked if I wanted to know why she got married? This was a rather interesting question, so I said, "yes, I would love to know why you got married." This was her reply to me...

"BECAUSE, I WAS TIRED OF LIVING THE LIFE I WAS LIVING. ONE DAY IT HIT ME, BECAUSE I FELT THERE WAS SOMETHING MISSING IN MY LIFE AND I DECIDED TO TELL MY HUSBAND, (WHO WAS MY BOYFIEND AT THE TIME) THAT WE NEED TO GO BACK TO CHURCH. HE AGREED.


I REMEMBER MY AUNT TELLING ME ABOUT SHACKING UP, LIVING IN SIN AND WHAT GOD WILL DO TO YOU WHEN YOU LIVE THE WAY ‘YOU’ WANT TO LIVE, AND NOT AS HOW ‘HE’ WANTS YOU TO LIVE.

I REALIZED, WHEN I READ THE BIBLE THAT MY LIFE IS NOT MINES; IT BELONGS TO THE LORD, SO I GOT SAVED.

SO MUCH STUFF I DIDN'T KNOW WAS BLINDED BY THIS WORLD. BUT NOW I SEE, SO BY GETTING SAVED AND WANTING TO LIVE RIGHT, I TOLD MY HUSBAND WE NEED TO GET MARRIED. I GAVE HIM A CHOICE MARRY ME OR WE HAVE TO SEPARATE!

I MEAN, IT'S NOT LIKE HE PROPOSED. WHEN WE GOT MARRIED I WAS 8 MONTHS PREGNANT. I'M GLAD I MADE THAT CHOICE. I MEAN, WHEN YOU GET SAVED AND YOU’RE HAVING SEX IT FEELS LIKE RAPE. BUT IT'S A PROCESS YOU GO THROUGH; YOU'RE NOT GOING TO CHANGE OVER NIGHT. I STOPPED CURSING, BUT IT DIDN’T HAPPEN OVER NIGHT… I STOPPED DOING ALOT OF THINGS.

BACK THEN, MY MOM USED TO SEND ME TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY AND BIBLE STUDY EVERY WEDNESDAY. I DIDN'T LEARN ANYTHING; I GOT BAPTIZED AT MY AUNT’S CHURCH.

I GOT BAPTIZED AS A SINNER AND CAME BACK UP A SINNER, BECAUSE I WAS STILL DOING WHAT I WANT TO DO. I DID'NT UNDERSTAND BACK THEN AND I THOUGHT I WAS GOING TO HEAVEN BECAUSE I WENT TO CHURCH EVERY SUNDAY; I WAS HEADING TO HELL, BUT NOW... I THANK GOD I'AM SAVED."

When I read this young ladies words it brought tears to my eyes. Because so many of us are out there searching for certain qualities in our relationships but chances are, we’re looking in the wrong places.
This comment started me to thinking and decided to ask you....

Why Did You Get Married?

This comment is open to everyone. Feel free to be as honest as you like.
For those of you who are no longer married (divorced or separated) Why did you marry the first time and do you think you’ll ever do it again.

For the single folks...Do you think you’ll ever get married? How important is it to you to get married?

What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?

I received this message in my inbox this morning. I thought it was important to post this blog because we commonly hear the term "Soul Mate" used in reference to relationships. I’d like to know your thoughts on this one too so here goes...

Hi Ms Wallace, I've followed your blogs off and on for some time but have never posted. Recently the term "Soul Mate" keeps popping up in my conversations with friends and family. Is there such a phenomena? I am married, I've been with my husband for a total of 15 years, married for the last 4 years, but recently, my "Soul Mate" got married. This absolutely broke my heart. Although I got married 4 years ago, I've never been so hurt. I actually felt heart-break for the first time. My husband knows all about this man. He held my hand, and held me up asI cried and over my "loss". I love my husband, we have 3 beautiful children, all is well in our lives, EXCEPT for the the fact that I have never gotten over my ex. We have kept up with other, off and on, over the past 18 years. Before my husband and I got married, while dating, I cheated on him several times with my ex. Over the past year, I knew that he was engaged, respected his situation and gave him his space. The last couple of times that we talked, we tried to get closure. Now that he's gotten married I feel like I've lost a part of myself.When I talk about my situation with friends and family, they always ask the same thing, my husband also asked me this, "Why didn't you just stay with him, or marry him?"My reply is the same, "Because I didn't want to live the life that he lived, we didn't have the same goals and aspirations." He lives a very military & structured life, where as I've always been a "free-spirit" and is more interested in living a less-structured, happy-go-lucky lifestyle,..... plus I love my husband, and he loves me we make a good team.
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My best friend on the other hand has recently ended a 12 year relationship with her fiancee. She claims that she always knew that her fiancee was never her "Soul Mate". She is 31 and has met another guy and is really into him. They've been dating for 3 months and she is the happiest that I've seen her in years. The fact that she says that her ex was never her "Soul Mate" What does that mean? How does she know? What the hell is a "Soul Mate" and how do you ever get over them?

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A friend of mine is currently dating a guy. She cheated on him and is now pregnant for the guy that she cheated with. She really does not want to be with the guy she is dating, but the guy that she is pregnant by is a no good drug dealer with no future; but, she just can't get over him. According to her, he is her ......"Soul Mate".I would love for you to post a blog asking your audience their thoughts on what a "soul mate" is, do you ever get over a "soul mate" etc...

So I ask ladies and gentlemen....

What The Hell Is a "Soul Mate" And How Do You Ever Get Over Them?

1.) What is a soul mate?
2.) How do you know if someone is your soul mate?
3.) If you ever miss out on, or lose the person you consider to be your soul mate, could you ever find another one?
4.) How do you ever get over them? or, Do you ever get over them?

As always, your honesty is much appreciated!